Want To Know What It Feels And Looks Like To Heal?

Who we spend time with shapes everything about our lives. When I spend too much time with lawyers, I forget that most people don’t start every other sentence with “It depends….” When I spend a lot of time with comics, making it weird becomes the vibe of the day. When I spend a lot of time with my fellow coaches, we talk about healing like it’s a totally normal thing to do.

Coaching isn’t focused on healing; typically that would be more of a therapist’s lane. I believe the best coaches aren’t here to fix you, because the starting position is that our clients are complete and whole. Therapy and coaching often overlap, and in fact I encourage **everyone** to go to therapy. In both coaching and therapy, we cover similar topics, (relationships, self-worth, work, bad patterns, etc.) but how and why we’re discussing these things is different. In coaching, we’re talking about these things because they’re obstacles to who we want to be and what we want to do.

The thing is, even without that being the specific intent of why most people work with me, all of my clients find themselves healing. Sometimes they’re healing from traumatic and abusive workplaces. Sometimes they’re healing the parts of themselves that felt powerless. Sometimes the healing isn’t specified, it’s just obvious.

Healing in this way is never one and done, unlike a cut or broken bone. It’s a choice and a way to live. When we choose to heal our souls, we’re choosing to be more than our hurts. This is empowering. It’s hopeful.

Want to know what it feels and looks like to heal?

• It feels like making a mistake and being able to be kind to yourself.
• It looks like making a mistake, apologizing, and doing better next time.
• It feels like letting tears slide down your face when the news is just too much.
• It looks like taking care of yourself in whichever way you need, not performing self-care because that’s how Instagram said to do it.
• It feels like the sun on your skin, with a protective layer of sunscreen.
• It looks like a gentle smile when you remember how you conquered that fear.
• It feels like your muscles stretching.
• It looks like your conversations are filled with more laughter, and less tension.
• It feels like hope when there’s a lot of evidence that everything is hopeless.
• It looks like standing up for yourself, firmly but gently.
• It feels like you’re becoming more whole.
• It looks like you trying something new.
• It feels like letting yourself be great.
• It looks like change.

Healing looks and feels different on everyone, and there’s no real formula to help any one person heal. This world is magical, and it’s also devastating. It’s on us to create more magic than cause devastation. When we do that, we start to bring healing wherever we go.

With love,

Erin

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